I have a friend that has been in love with same guy for 2 years now. He has never showed any real interest in her. I almost feel bad for the guy.
Any way my question is, I've always had a crush on him but never done anything about it because of her. I don't want to lose her friendship over a guy, but I believe that him and I have a lot in common. We always have a great time together and I would realy like a chance to get to know him better . What should I do?
You have to be totally honest with your friend. Tell her how you feel about the guy and ask her if if it would be all right for you to date him. If you go behind her back with this, I can guarantee it'll come out and you will lose this friend, for sure!
You say you get on with this guy but there's no definite promise of a relationship with him so you're risking a lot by showing your feelings.
Even though your friend hasn't made any headway with him, she's obviously still hoping and might blame you if you come in between her and her chances with him, even if they only exist in her mind.
You're walking a thin line here so my advice is be careful, be tactful and be caring and you won't end up with nothing.
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