Exchange Student

I am nearly 19 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 3years now. We have just finished our first year of Uni; both of us went tothe same one and lived at the same college. The college that we live at hasa lot of exchange students from all over the world. Towards the end of theUni year, I started to have feelings for one of these exchange students. Ofcourse this guy had to go home so now he is on the other side of the world,but I still think that I have feelings for him.

My relationship with my boyfriend has been through a few hard times before, we always figured it out, but I'm having trouble forgetting about theexchange student. He treated me in such a different way to what my boyfrienddoes, and I think it's more like how I would like to be treated. My boyfriend's mum is terminally ill and is not expected to live much longer.

I was looking to end the relationship but I am afraid that he won't be able to cope with the break up as well as his mum's sickness, and I'm worried about what it would do to his mum's condition. I still care so much for him, I'mjust not sure that its right for me to stay with him if I have had feelingsfor someone else.
Sarah

Charmaine:
There's also the issue of compassion and sensitive timing. If you havedecided definitely to end your relationship, it's okay to wait till a timewhen your boyfriend is not going through such a painful situation. Itdoesn't mean you're being hypocritical.

This will also give you the chance to really think about what you want. Ifyou are honest with your guy about these other feelings you had, maybe hemight get a wake-up call and improve his treatment of you. Don't give him upwithout the chance for him to change. After all, you said it was mainlyabout the way the other guy behaved towards you. You certainly have everyright to get the best out of any relationship you're involved with. Focus,think clearly, step out of emotion then decide. Talk to your boyfriendinitially once the time feels right, and go from there.






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