Q. I am dating a man and we are both college students. We plan to marry within the next two months. However, I am concerned that he is a little self-centered and thinks of me only when it is convenient for him. For example I needed money for texts for classes, and he has the means to get them for me but he won't. He has not even considered doing this for me.
Another example is when he needed money to pay his rent, I said I wouldgive him a certain amount, but was financially unable to and he decided to getangry with me and pout. I am frustrated and I am considering callingthings off until we can settle some things. What do I do?
Rather than call the relationship off while you sort things out, whynot try doing it together? It's appropriate to have a break when we're unsureof our feelings but in this case, it seems to be more practical considerations.
Mostly you seem to fight about money which does not bode well for the future. I suggest that while you're still dating, you keep your finances apart but if you decide later to live together, you need to both be honest about your attitudes towards money, spending, bills etc as this can become a great source of conflict otherwise.
Tell him for right now how you're feeling and give him a chance to proveyou wrong.
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