I'm 18 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years now. For about the first year we had sex and I enjoyed it but after that I've developed an aversion to it. I hate it. When we do have sex, I don't enjoy it and I always tell him to just finish quickly. I tell myself it hurts and I think that is because I am not too aroused and still dry down there. When we are having sex, I am thinking too much about not wanting it to even enjoy it. Even talking about sex or oral sex with him, I feel disgusted. I don't know why I think like this - it's almost like I trained myself. I don't know how to enjoy sex again. Please Help.. Charmaine:
You've figured it out quite right for yourself. It's your mind that's blocking your enjoyment of sex. It sounds like more than just normal staleness after a couple of years with the same partner. I have to ask you to consider that perhaps your guy doesn't know how to please you. Read some reputable sex manuals together and experiment. After all, sex is all about sharing.
The way things are at present, you can't be expected to enjoy it - if you're not aroused, sex will hurt. I'm concerned that you will develop a deeper and deeper mental blockage and eventually your sexuality will be frozen - so please do something about it soon.
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