When in Doubt Throw It Out: A Guide To Finding Mr. Right

When in Doubt…throw it out: is an accessible and at times humorous dating "bible" for women caught in the eternal conflict of looking for Mr Right.

Author Julie Reith's relaxed style comes through her writing yet the pages are loaded with simple wisdom that is easily applied. "There is no need to over complicate something that for many is already complicated!" says Julie.

Julie has been a successful business woman running her own inner city hairdressing salon. Hairdressers do far more than cut hair; they are confidantes, sounding boards and counselors. Julie had heard her share of stories - common themes of these problems are addressed in her book.

Her book is full of life's experiences, advice and suggestions on how to overcome the trap of staying in damaged or unsteady relationships. Aimed at women of all ages, it encourages women to discover who they really are and overcome poor self-image which is so often at the core of disappointing relationships. While it looks at those aspects of relationships that make women unhappy, it focuses on looking forward to a future full of hope.

She has a heart for women who need to make positive relationship choices in order to lead fulfilling lives. Copies of her first book have been distributed at women's shelters where the short easy read format had been well received.

When in Doubt Throw It Out: A Guide To Finding Mr. Right
Author: Julie Reith
ISBN: 9780980847505

Interview with Julie Reith

Question: What inspired you to write When in Doubt Throw It Out: A Guide To Finding Mr. Right?

Julie Reith: I had a history of bad love and relationships, I had been in relationships were I wasn't getting the love I needed and believe it or not I had a baby boy, who is now 14, and after 8 years apart from my husband we have gotten back together. I wasn't willing to settle for being treated badly or being in a relationship where there wasn't equal giving.

The writing came about because I went into counseling and I wanted to work out why I had a bad history in all of my relationships. I went back to my childhood and there were a lot of unhealed issues regarding my father and I started writing out my feelings. I didn't mean to be a writer but when I went to counseling the counselor suggested I write out my feelings and I did. I have never been taught to write a book but I wrote what was in my heart and each book was along the track, I took.


Question: How will the book help readers find Mr. Right?

Julie Reith: The book helps by educating you with the knowledge you need. My mother had my sister and I very young and I didn't have an understanding of being treated right or wrong, I was very naive. I had to unlearn and relearn. If you are trying to work out 'why do I have a history of being treated badly' then there is something in you missing, it means you are not loving yourself right. What you are willing to give is what you are going to settle for and what you'll get back.


Question: Do all females have a different perception of their Mr. Right?

Julie Reith: We all want the same thing, we all want somebody who is going to love us right but we all have different wants and needs. You might be in a place were you want to meet someone and get married, it all depends on where you're at and you need to keep it realistic.


Question: What suggestions does the book offer?

Julie Reith: Many! Firstly it all comes back to you, who you are and what you are is what you're going to get. If you're willing to settle for second best that is what you are going to get.

It all comes back to starting with loving yourself and then you will find that you attract that and you won't settle for anything less. When I wrote the book I hoped my story would help other woman so they don't have to go down the road I went down because I didn't learn this until I was older.

I wrote the books when I was single; my husband and I got back together, after 8 years apart and the reason we did was because he understood he had to step-it-up if he wanted to be with me, he had to be on the same page to be with me. It's going really well now because I didn't settle to my husband, I knew he did the wrong thing by me and I left with an 18 month old baby and I wasn't willing to settle. In time he has shown me he is a good father by having our son, Andre, every weekend and then he showed me he was willing to change.

Andre never knew us together, we got back together when he was nine years old and I had to get used to having a man in my life again. I had to share my life when I was used to being independent, I believe every woman pictures Mr. Right to be the same and it's someone who loves us right. We all have different wants and needs but it's got to be realistic. A woman must know what she wants before she can truly have a lasting relationship.


Question: What other books are in the When in Doubt series?

Julie Reith: There are two more books in the trilogy which will be coming out soon and they move on from this title. The second is about intimacy. I just wrote what was in my heart and as I was growing I put it down on paper and completed the three titles. I wrote the books to help other woman out there.
The book can be purchased at www.whenindoubtseries.com


Interview by Brooke Hunter