Peer Pressure

Arealfriendisonewhowalksinwhentherestoftheworldwalksout.ReadingthevarietyofresponsesinregardstosomeofthepressuresthatareplacedonteenagersespeciallygirlsIwassaddenedbytheemotionalandphysicaltraumasthattheseincrediblystronggirlshavehadtodealwithyetIwasalsoinspiredinspiredbecauseeverysingleoneofthemcameoutoftheirtribulationsemotionallystrongerandhavinglearntavaluablelessonthatwillnodoubtassisttheminthefuture.brbrThefirstquestionthatneedstobeaskedwhenlookingatthisverysensitivecomplexareaofateenagerslifeiswhyWhyweasfemaleadolescentsinanerainwhichwehavesomanyrightsandopportunitiesaswellasanindependencethathasseldomifeverbeenseeninthepastarefindingourselvesbeingcoercedintosituationsthatweusuallyknowarewrongordangerousyetarestillabletosuccumbtothepersuasionandpressureofthosearoundusWhetherthepressureistohavesexwithMr.RightNowortosmokeajointjusttorelaxpeerpressureisbecomingmoreprevalentwithintodaysyouthbecauseweasagenerationareextremelydependantonourfriends.Friendsareourdiariesinwhichwecanspillallofoursecretsandemotionsintotheycanbethewisecomfortingvoicesinsideourheadswhenwearefacingoneoflifesmanyharshinstancesandtheycanprovideahomeawayfromhomewhenfamilylifesometimesgetsunbearable.Neverthelessitisthesepositiveinfluencessupportandacceptancetheyprovidethatmakeitjustthatlittlebiteasiertobepressuredbythem.SuddenlythequestionofifeveryoneelseisdoingitthenwhyshouldntIbeginstoplagueusastheacceptanceweusedtohavefromourfriendsbeginstodwindleandourdesireforapprovalbeginstogrow.Theverymoralsandprinciplesthatwehavepridedourselvesnolongerempowerusandgiveusstrengthfromwithinrathertheyareovershadowedandpushedasidebyourneedtobeaccepted.brbrBingedrinkingsmokingtakingdrugsandunderagesexualactivityarebecomingalarminglywidespreadintodaysadolescentsmainlybecauseofthisdesiretobeaccepted.ManyteenagersfindthemselvesatpartiesorgatheringswhereitseemstobethenormtodrinkafewtoomanyBacardiBreezersorwhenafewmoregulpsofScotchshouldntharmus.ThedangersofdrinkingarenotunfamiliartoteenagersyettheyallseemtobemiraculouslyforgottenwhenweneedjustthatlittlebitmoreconfidencetogetthecuteguyinthecornersattentionorwheneveryoneelseisjustsittingaroundscullingbottlesfullofVodka.Amazinglythedangersofsmokingdruguseaswellasthemanyrisksassociatedwithunsafesexualactivityarealsowellknown.MostschoolsparentsandevensometimesthemediaareconstantlyrepeatingtheobviousdangersthatpoppinganXataraveorsmokingajointdailycanposeaswellastheextremerisksofSTIsthatcanbetransmittedandunwantedpregnanciesthatmayeventuatefromsexualactivityiftherightprecautionsarenttaken.brbrTheproblemisgenerallynotthatwehaventbeeneducatedfromayoungage.Uponenteringthefinalyearsatprimaryschoolandeventhefirstyearorsoatsecondaryschoolweparticipateinnumerousprogramsandinitiativestoeducatestudentsaboutpeerpressureandthedemandsthatwewillhavetofaceduringouradolescence.Thesecontinueallthroughoutsecondaryschoolandyettheageinwhichteenagersarebeginningtoexperimentindrugsdrinkingandsexualactivityarestartlinglydecreasingtoaround12or13yearsofage.WeareseeingthateveninjunioryearlevelsatsecondaryschoolthepeerpressuretohaveacoupleofCruisersthatgotsmuggledintoJennys13thbirthdaypartyortojusttryajointtoseewhatitslikearebecomingworryinglyfrequent.brbrAlthoughthereisnotoneanswerorsolutiontodealingwithpeerpressuretherearethingswhichwecanaskourselvesbeforeputtingourselvesinsituationsinwhichwemayharmourselvesphysicallyandoremotionallyorothersaroundussuchasourfamily.WhyamIdoingthisIsitformeorforthisguyOrisitformyfriendsbecauseImscaredofstandingupforwhatIbelieveinandrisklosingthemUnlessyoutrulybelievedeepdownthatyouaredoingsomethingforyouandfornooneelsethenstopandrememberthatyouareanindividualwhohastherighttostandupforwhatyoubelieveinbecomfortablewithinyourgroupoffriendsandwhodoesnthavetodoanythingthatyoudontwanttodothatmayendangeryouorharmyou.brbrAlwayshaveenoughmoneyorawayofcontactingparentsguardiansanolderbrotherorsisterwhenyouaregoingouttopartiesandotheroutingsbecauseyouneverknowwhenasituationmayarisethatyouarenotcomfortablewith.Simplyringyourparentguardiansiblingoratrustedolderfriendandaskthemtopickyouupandifthisisntpossiblecatchacabhome.Dontbeworriedaboutwhatpeoplearegoingtosaybecausefirstlytheyprobablywontnoticebutiftheydoandmakeabigdealoutofitlateronsorrytousetheoldclichiftheyaretruefriendsthentheywillacceptyouforwhoyouareandnotvindicateyouforbeingastrongindividual.Theyshouldacceptyourbeliefsmoralspersonalityandthethingsyouwillandwontstandfor.Therearepeopleouttherewhowouldappreciateyouformorethanwhetheryousleptwithyourboyfriendof3monthsorifyougottotallytrashedatTraceys18thbirthdayandthesearethepeoplethatyouneedtofindthroughsocializingandexpandingyourhorizons.Joinacluboutsideofschoolandgetouttheretomeetpeoplewhohavesimilarintereststoyoudiscovernewareasoflifeandnewpeopletobearoundwhoacceptyouforwhoyouare.brbrStillthereisonemorepersonthatyouneedfindinallofthisyourself.Theseyearsofadolescenceareaboutselfdiscoverynotyourtolerancetoalcoholorhowmanyjointsyoucansmokebeforethrowingup.Rememberthatpeoplewhoarewillingtojudgeandexcludeyouforstandingupforyourselfnowarenotlongtermfriends.Theywillneverprovideyouwiththetruefriendshipandsupportthatyourequirewhiledevelopingandmaturingnorwilltheyallowyoutoreachyourfullpotentialasafriendasastudentandasaperson.brbrbyNatalieDevitsakisbrbrbrAnychildcouldbecomeavictimofatargetblankhrefhttpwww.child.netdrugalc.htmteenagedrugabuseawhichiswhyparentsareencouragedtoeducatetheirkidsaboutthedangersofdrugaddiction.brbrbrbrbREADERSVOICEbbrbrbrIdsaythatpeerpressureaffectedmeinthesamewaythatitdoesmostgirls.At16IwasnotreadytolosemyvirginityIdidnthaveasteadyboyfriendIhadlittleconfidenceinmyselfIhadnoideawhatIwasgettingmyselfinto.Allmyfriendswerehavingsex.Theyactedasiflosingyourvirginitywasnobigdeal.ItisTrustmebrbrInowknowthatIlostmyvirginitytotheWRONGguyHewasasleazeIwasjustanothergirltohim.IguessIthoughtthathewouldlikemeifIsleptwithhimitdidntwork.SaveyourselfforMRRIGHTgirls...heisaroundsomewhereIdontmeansaveyourselfformarriageJustsaveyourselfforsomeonethatyoucareaboutsharesthesamefeelingsbrbrImetmycurrentboyfriendat17havebeenwithhimfor4years.IwishthatIhadsavedmyselfforhim.SureIwouldhavelackedexperiencebutthatdoesntmatterwhenthepersonisright.brbrFibrbrbrbrWhenIwasinyear9myfriendspressuredmeintosmokingmarijuanaorpot.IreallydidntwanttobutIthoughtlifeisshortandIgaveintopeerpressure.ThefirsttimeIsuddenlyspacedoutandgothigh.IdidntknowwhattodoIwantedtobeatpeopleup.IhateditbutIkeptontryingitwheneverwewereatparties.brbrAfterafewmonthsmyschoolgradesdroppedandmyhealthdegraded.OnemorningIhadawakeupcallanddecidedtonothangaroundthesefriends.IknewafterthiswholeexperiencewithpotIwouldnotgiveintopeerpressureagain.Myexperiencehelpedmerealizewhatnottodo.brbrEventhoughIhadfeltthepeerpressureitwasstillmychoice.Ivechangedmywholeconceptondoinganythingdrinkingsmokingorhavingsex.NowwhensomeoneasksmetodosomethingIthinkabouttheconsequencesfirst.MyexperiencewasbadbutIvelearnedfromit.Thereweresixpeopleinthegroupfourfinishedhighschoolinyear10andaretypicaldropoutsonecommittedsuicideandtheotherisinboardingschool.Iamcurrentlyinyear12.brbrDrugssmokingandbingedrinkingarejustwaystoescapewithoutactuallyescaping.Theyareallstupidandpointless.Peopleneedtobemorecomfortableinwhotheyare.brbrSimonebrbrbrbrWhenIwasinhighschoolpeerpressuremademefeelleftout.MyfriendswouldallgooutclubbingatoverageclubsbutIwasntallowed.TheymademefeellikeIhadmissedoutonthebestnighteverandwouldtalkabouttheirexperienceallweek.Iwouldhavenothingtotalkaboutbecauseeverythingcenteredonthatnight.ThentheywouldaskmewhyIwasntsayinganythingandIwouldtellthemthatIhavenothingtosay.SometimesIfeltliketheywouldntevennoticeifIwalkedawaybutIneverdidIwouldsitandlistentothem.brbrJennybrbrbrbrWhenIwasatschoolPeerPressureplayedabigpartinmylifeandforthatreasonIamnowgladthatmyparentswouldhardlyeverletmegooutwithmyfriends.Theyallstarteddrinkingandhavingsexwhenwewere13.theydsuccumbedtopeerpressurethemselvesandIwasevenanoutsiderwithinmygroupoffriendsuntilIlostmyvirginityat15andIwaswelcomedbackintotheirelitecircle.brbrIhatedmyparentswhenIwasgrowingupforbeingsoprotectiveandnotallowingmetomixwithmyfriendsandhavingtocalltheirparentswhenIstayedattheirhousesetcetcbutnowwhenIlookbackonitIamsohappythattheydidntallowmetobejustanothersheepintheflock.brbrEmmabrbrbrbrInmy1styearathighschoolIhadaveryfashionablehairstyleforthateraunfortunatelythegirlsinyear12wereveryjealousofthisandIwasbulliedconstantlybythesegirls56yearsolderthenme.Theywouldthreatenmebypullingmyhairandholdingscissorsuptome.Iwenttoaveryroughallgirlshighschool.brbrIwouldtrytoignorethembutallofthemwereoflargestaturewhereIwasverypetite.MyotherproblemIwasbeingbulliedathomebymyStepfathersotheconstantbadgeringeventuallymademechangemyhair.ItsanunfortunatethingthatthiskindofthinghastogoonitalsosaddensmegreatlythatIwastreatedlikethiswhenIhadenoughproblemsonmyplate.brbrWhenIreachedyear12Imadefriendswithmanyoftheyear7sandtheywouldlookuptomeasabigsisterandquiteoftencometomeintroubledtimes.MyPhilosophyhasalwaysbeenWhatgoesaroundcomesaroundbrbrEvelynbrbrbrbrIwassenttoagirlsschoolinsteadofthelocalhighschoolwhereallmyfriendswentwithmyparentsbestinterestsinmind.LittledidtheyrealizethatbeingasshyandselfconsciousasIwasitcoulddestroymylifeandthatIwouldfollowanyoneImetwhowouldbewillingtobemyfriend.brbrInyear7IdidntknowanyoneandclungtothefirstfriendImadesheintroducedmetoboysalthoughalotofboyslikedmeIwasverywellbehavedanddidtherightthingnotreallyknowinganythingdifferent.ButbecauseIhadsomanymalefriendsIwasautomaticallylabeledaSLUTbyeveryothergirlintheschool.Throughoutyear7tillyear10IstruggledtoprovewhoIwasandbemyselfandbyyear10....Ididnothave1enemyinthewholeschool....IcouldwalkanywhereandholdmyheaduphighknowingpeoplelikedmeforwhoIwasthefriendlygirlwhodidnevergrudgeorlistentostorysthatIdidntknowwerefactorfiction.brbrIbefriendedeveryoneandsaidhellotoanyoneIneverlistenedtogossipandsometimesIlostfriendsbecauseofwhoIwasorbecamebutIsoonrealizedthatthefriendsImadeweremoreimportantthantheonesIlost.Butinyear10anewgirlcametotheschoolandinmyattempttohelpherfitinshesomehowmanagedtopursuedmetojigclassesandthenstartdrinkingwhileskippingclassesuntilthepointwhereIwasonlyatschoolforprobablylessthanhalfofthetime.AnywayIleftschoolhadababyat16andkeptherasmybestfriendfor6yearswhileIwatchedherdestroyherlifeandminebystealingmyhusbandfromundermynosewhenItookherinoffthestreetsaftershewaskickedout.IhavehadsomuchpainandheartacheinmylifewithrelationshipsandIdobelievealotofitwasbecauseofpeerpressureandrebellingfrommyparentswhileatschool....brbrIlookatmylittlegirlnowandseethebullyingshehashadtodealwithanditmakesmesosadthatIcanthelpher.Sheissomuchmoreoutgoingthanmebutthingscametoaheadandshehaschangedschools.Ihopemystorycanhelpsomeoneinsomeway....brbrRebeccabrbrbrbrIwasnotparticularlycleverbutIworkedreallyhardaschoolanddidwell.Icoppedahardtimeforthisandwasoftenteasedtothepointofgettingmyhairpulledmyschooluniformrippedmybooksstolenetc.Iwasashykidtooafraidtofightbackorworrymyparentswithwhatwasgoingon.FortunatelymyloveoflearningdidnotletmedropoutandIwentontouniversitywhereIhaveagreatgroupoffriendswhosupportmeandIhavelearnttostandupformyself.ImgladIdidnotletpeerpressureruinthisopportunityformeandonlywishthatinstateschoolspeerpressurewouldnotdiscouragehardworkandeducation.brbrNanceebrbrbrIfyouareconcernedthatyourchildmaybeusingdrugslearnabouttheatargetblankhrefhttpwww.newportacademy.comsignsandsymptomsofteendrugusesignsofdrugusea.


 



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