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What I Wish I Knew Above Love

h3WhatIWishIKnewAboveLoveh3pIfyoucouldturnbacktheclockandgiveyouryoungerselfonepieceofadviceaboutlovewhatwoulditbebrbrMartyWilsonisnotarelationshipexpertpsychologistCasanovaorcommitmentphone.Justablokewholoveshiswife.Theyrebothreallygoodatbeinginlovewitheachother.brbrAshisseventhanniversaryloomedMartysetouttoreadeverybookhecouldfindaboutlovetoseeifhecouldlearnathingortwobrWhatmakessomepeoplesrelationshipslastbrWhatmakesothersgetstaleorfallapartbrWhydosomepeopleseemtofindrealloveandhowcomeiteludesothersalltheirlivesbrbrPrettysoonandprettyinevitablyhefoundsomemajorflawsinthebooksaboutlovebrTheymaybewrittenbyexpertsbuttheynearlyalwaystookasidebrTheyreallwaytopreachy.WherewasthelaughterWherewasthefunbrWhatwaswithalltheserulestechniquestacticsandgamesbrAndmostimportantlyforablokeTheyreallatleastthreeorfourhundredpageslongbrbrWhyhasnooneeversummarisedthislovestuffSurelysomethingassimpleandenjoyableasloveshouldntrequiresuchrigidguidelinesbrbrSoMartyspentayearinterviewingovera100peoplewhowereingreatrelationshipsaboutwhatmakestheirlovelifetickaskingIfyoucouldgobackandgiveyouryoungerselfonepieceofadviceaboutlovewhatwoulditbebrbrTheresultisabookaboutloveforpeoplewhoneverreadbooksaboutlove.brItsselfhelpforallofusthathateselfhelp.brItisbeautifulenoughtogivetoafriendwhoneedstheirfaithinloverestoredbutitsalsomeatyandinsightfulenoughtobuyforyourselfbrItisquitesimplyalovelybookaboutlovebypeoplethatknowbecausewelltheyareinlove.brbrstrongWhatIwishIknewaboutMartyscontributorsstrongbrFeaturingwordsofwisdomfromsomeofAustraliasfavouritefacesaswellassnapsofthembackbeforeweknewthembrstrongJuliaMorrisMelissaDoyleAllanandBarbaraPeaseCalWilsonBettinaArndtPeterFitzSimonsNikkiGemmelCatrionaRowntreestrongbrordinarypeoplejustlikeyouandmeandsomeofthosethathaveinspireduswiththeirworkortheirpassionovertheyearsbrstrongSamBaileystrongisaquadriplegicwhometthenproposedtostrongJennyBaileystrongonherABCERadioshow.TheywereonAustralianstoryandtheirbiographytogetherHeadOverHeelswasabestseller.brbrstrongPeterBainesstrongisanAustralianforensicexpertwhoidentifiedover1000bodiesaftertheboxingdaytsunamiinThailandthenstartedthecharityHandsAcrosstheWatertobuildorphanagesforthekidsleftalive.brbrstrongMartyWilsonstrongisawriterstandupcomicandspeakerMartyWilsonhasmadeawholeheapmorethanhisfairshareofmistakeswhenitcomestolove.Aformeradmanawardwinningstandupcomedianhewritesformagazinesandwebsitesscriptsshortfilmsisonthecorporatespeakingcircuitandhastravelledacrosstheworldinsearchoftruesuccess.brbrAftertalkingaboutloveforawholeyearMartyandhiswifeAlliearemoredeeplyinlovethaneverandtheeighthyearoftheirmarriageisalreadylookingphenomenal.brbrWhatIWishIKnewAboveLovebrAllenandUnwinbrAuthorMartyWilsonbrISBN9781742372037brPrice17.99brbrbrph3InterviewwithMartyWilsonh3pDoyoubelievethatmostAussieguysdontbelieveintruelovebrbrstrongMartyWilsonstrongPhewtoughonetostartwith.TheimportantthingisifyoureusingthewordsTrueLovetodefinethatMegRyanTomHanksHollywoodRomanticComedyideathenIdontthinkanyoneshouldbelieveintruelove.WhyisntthereaMegRyanTomHanksRomComcalledGiveandTakeThereshouldbebecauseacceptingevenadoringsomeonesfaultsisthetruthabouthowtomakelovework.Realloveisadecisiontohonourrespectandbelovingtowardssomeoneinspiteofthefactthattheyattimesdriveyouabsolutelystarkravingmad.InmybookTonyHarrissaidSomepeoplethinkyoureinlovewhenyoudonthavetoworkatitwhenyoudonthavetocompromise.Thatsrubbish.Youknowyoureinlovewhenyouwanttoworkatityouwanttocompromise.EvenjusttinythingslikeInowshavealmosteverydayandwearaftershavenotformebutbecausemywifelovesit.brbrbrWhatwasoneofthebestpiecesofadviceaboutloveyouweretoldwhilstresearchingthisbookbrbrstrongMartyWilsonstrongComicJuliaMorrisknewwhenitwastimetogetmarriedandyoucantoo.ShesaidWhenyouknowyouknow.IfyoudontknowtheanswerisNo.ShewentontosayUntilImetDanIhadntbeeninloveatallIdbeeninPleasecallmelust.Ithinkalotofmyfriendsgotmarriedtothepersontheyhappenedtobegoingoutwiththeyconsideredthemselvesoldenoughtogetmarried.Ireckonthatsdumb.IlovetheoldsayingDontmarrysomeonepersonyoucanlivewithmarrysomeoneyoucantlivewithout.brbrbrWhenaskingIfyoucouldgobackandgiveyouryoungerselfonepieceofadviceaboutlovewhatwoulditbewhatwasthemostcommonanswerbrbrstrongMartyWilsonstrongThebookhas86interviewsinitandIthinkaboutaquarterofthemallsaidthisexactphrase.brThankthewankers.brDontwastetimeandenergyongrudgesorpouringacidonhisbeemerthankthecheatingmongrelyoucaughtouttodinnerwithyoursisterbegratefultothespeckynerdwhospentmoreongamesforhisXboxthanhedidonyouandthankthejerkwhomessedyouupsobadlyyousatinyourbedroomalonedrinkingginandsingingIwillsurvivetill4am.brbrIvelearnedthatitsthebitchesthebastardsthelosersandtheabsolutedickheadswhomakeyourealiseyouvefoundtherightonewhentheycomealongsothankthemwithallyourbrokenheart.brbrbrWhyarewecontinuallyseeingcelebrityhookupsandbreakupssplashedalloverourmagazinesDoweactuallylikereadingaboutbreakupsbrbrstrongMartyWilsonstrongImgenuinelysorrybutyouvehitononeofmyGrandtheoriesandnowImonaroll.brbrIreallygetwoundupbyourobsessionwithcelebs.Ifwestoppedspendingallthattimelivingvicariouslythroughtheadventurelovesuccessandjoyinfamouspeopleslivesandinsteadallspentmoretimetryingtobringadventurelovesuccessandjoyintoourownliveswedallbemuchhappierpeople.AndIbelievewedoitbecausewecangetsay30ofthethrilloftheirachievementswithoutanyriskoffailure.Wewanttofeelwhatitsliketogooutandfollowourdreamsliketheyappeartobedoingbutwithoutanyrisk.Andthatsnotreallife.Ifyouwanttowinbigearnbigorlovebigyouhavetoriskbig.brbrAndthatswhywelovereadingaboutbreakupsitmakesusfeelbetteraboutstayinginourshellandnotriskingitall.brbrPhewthatwasabitofarant.ButIjustwisheveryonereadingamagazinelikeHelloorOKwouldputitdownandjustturntosomeonesittingnexttothemandhaveagoodoldchinwagabouthowtheirlifeisdoinginstead.Trustmeafterover200interviewsformyWhatIWishIKnewbooksIpromiseitwouldbemuchmoresatisfying.brbrOkayIllgetoffthesoapboxnowbrbrbrCanyouhelpAustraliansoutWhatmakessomecouplesrelationshipslastbrbrstrongMartyWilsonstrongThereisadelicatebalancebetweentwoseeminglyopposingforces.Firstlyyouhavetodeeplyunderstandthatthereisnoperfectpartnerandsometimesyouwillhavetoworkatit.Thereisnooneyoucanspendforeverwithwhowillneverrubyouthewrongway.FormermarriagecounsellorBruceSullivansaidAllpeopleinrelationshipstakeitinturntodoreallydumbthings.ThebasisforintimacywithmywifeisthatIacceptthatsheisanidiotandsheacceptsthatIamanidiotandwejustagreenottosayanythingaboutit.Dissatisfactionisnormalresentmentisoptional.brbrSotherewillbetimesthatitshardworksoyouhavetomarrysomeonethatyouloveenoughtodoallthehardwork.Andthatisdowntofindingyoursoulmate.brbrIinterviewedawomanformybookcalledAllisonMachinwhotoldastorythatreallystayedwithme.Asayoungbackpackershewasintroducedtoafriendofafriendandtheyhititoffstraightaway.SheexplainsThatdayIsaidtomymumIvemetsomeonewhoIjustknowisgoingtobeveryimportantinmylife.TherewasasparkIdontmeanjustphysicallywellforhimitprobablywasbutwefeltconnectedonsomedeephumanlevel.InmygutIjustknew.brbrWhydidthisstorytouchmesodeeplyWellthatfriendofafriendwasmeandthreeyearsafterthatfirstmeetingAllisonMachinbecameAllieWilsonmywife.EightyearsdownthelineandwehavetwobeautifulboysConnorandElliotandeverydayitgetsbetterandbetter.SowhenAlliesaysheradvicetoheryoungerselfwouldbeBelieveinsoulmatesIjusthavetogrinlikeabiggoofygoober.brbrbrWhatisthedifferencebetweenthisbookandalltheotherbooksaboutlovebrbrstrongMartyWilsonstrongThisisabookonloveyoucangivetoyourblokeandhewillactuallyenjoyreadingit.Iknowthatsabigpromisesoletmeexplain.brbrThisyearistheyearofmymarriagethattheycalltheSevenYearItch.SobeingtrudlymadlydeeplyperhapsevenalittledesperatelypatheticallyinlovewithmywifeIdecidedstartreadingeverybookIcouldfindonlovetomakesurethiswasthebestyearofourmarriedlifenottheworst.brButwhenIdidtheyallhadthesamethreeenormousflawsbr1.Theyrealljustoneexpertsopinionwhichmeanseitheramaleorfemalebiasbr2.TheyreallpreachyandholierthanthourelationshipsarefunforGodssakebr3.Mostimportantlyforabloketheyreallatleastthreeorfourhundredpageslongsomelonger.NowImabiggirlymanbyobjectivestandardsbutnoblokewantstoread80000wordsonfootyletalonethemushyartsoflove.brbrWhyhasnooneeversummarisedthisstuffWheresthecheatnotesbrSoIdecidedtowritemyownbookthatcouplescoulduseasafantasticconversationstarter.Iveinterviewedalmost100peoplewhowereingreatrelationshipsandaskedthemIfyoucouldgobackandgiveyouryoungerselfonepieceofadviceaboutlovewhatwoulditbeThenIputeachpersonspieceofwisdomdownnexttoasuperblydaggyphotoofthemastheywereataroundeighteencompletewithpaisleyflaresshoulderpadsandreallynastymulletjustsoallthiswisdomdoesntseemtosmug.SoWhatIWishIKnewaboutLovehasabalancedmalefemaleviewitishumorousandapproachablenotdogmaticandjudgementalandmoreimportantlyforblokesitonlytakesaboutanhourtoread.brbrThisisabookaboutloveforpeoplewhoneverreadbooksaboutlove.brItsselfhelpforallofusthathateselfhelp.brbrbrp


 



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