Entitled 49 Secrets of an Elite Matchmaker, it's based on Trudy's knowledge, expertise and success in matchmaking during the past nine years as founder and director of Elite Introductions – an exclusive agency helping singles in professional careers meet and connect. It offers tips and advice on dating, as well as case studies and information about what men and women really want.
Trudy has helped thousands of clients meet and find love and her book has been compiled from what those clients have told her they're looking for in a partner.
There are some surprising tips to attract long lasting love including game playing from both sexes, women being strong and independent and men needing to channel their inner George Clooney.
Despite the numerous dating websites and apps available, there are still many singles out there struggling to find their perfect match. Work and other commitments may be getting in the way of finding -the one' or perhaps there have been too many disastrous -matches' on Tinder – whatever the reason, dating is still a tough, tough game for those wanting a mature, long lasting relationship.
Professional matchmaker Trudy Gilbert has written a book to help those ready for love and a real relationship find it. Entitled 49 Secrets of an Elite Matchmaker, it's based on Trudy's knowledge, expertise and success in matchmaking during the past nine years as founder and director of Elite Introductions – an exclusive agency helping singles in professional careers meet and connect. She has had tremendous success with helping her clients find love, long term relationships and even marriage. Trudy's book offers tips and advice on dating, as well as case studies and information about what men and women really want and what they are looking for in a partner.
'Over the years, I have had thousands of clients come to see me and the experience has guided me towards creating a list of the top qualities men and women seek in a partner. This book contains 49 secrets to finding a successful relationship and it's been compiled from what my clients have told me they are looking for. It's also from analysing the success stories of the couples I have seen connect and I'm thrilled to share these secrets with other singles out there," Trudy says.
Five of the top secrets to attract long lasting love are as follows:
Playing games is healthy and a definite must for both sexes but the object is to understand the rules and play well. In the first few weeks of dating introduce your positive traits before showing your faults. A solid foundation will have already been set, so your date will be less judgemental and more forgiving.
The number one request from Trudy's female clients is to find someone like George Clooney so this is something men need to channel – be a gentleman, listen, be polite, have charisma, be genuine, well mannered and considerate.
Women need to be sensual and feminine – mature, masculine men want fun, feminine women. Leave the boardroom behind and when dating channel your sexy self.
Men need to stop leading with their toys and put the cash and flash away – women will see straight through this. The same can be said for women – men don't want to talk about the latest Chanel handbag you just purchased. Lead with your other qualities such as charm, humour and intelligence.
Successful and confident male clients not only enjoy the company of an intelligent and self-assured woman, they request it as their top criteria. A strong woman is attractive to a man who is confident within himself and who will inspire him by having great things going on in her own life. A good man wants a woman with purpose and direction – this is what real men find attractive.
49 Secrets of an Elite Matchmaker
Author: Trudy Gilbert