This must sound crazy coming from a 17 year old, but when I was 7, my mum and I moved out west Sydney to live with her boyfriend. After 6 months, she got a job at the local pub and her boss had a younger brother who was 8 years older than me, but I thought he was pretty cute. I cant remember why but he gave me the nickname Tiger, and we became good friends, but one night when I was 10, my mum came home and said that he had asked her if he could marry me.
I passed if off as a bit of a joke as my mum knew I liked him but a few days later, I went into work with her and he actually turned around and asked me to marry him. I cant remember what I said, and not long after, maybe a year at the latest, he moved to central NSW, and he only came back and visited occasionally. The last time I saw him before I moved up here to Queensland, I would have been 12, but the problem is I cant get him out of my head. Ive completed high school without dating a single person, and if I have a crush on any guy, I get over it pretty quickly and start thinking about him again. The weird thing is that this time I cant seem to build up the courage to tell my mum, and I know she has her old boss number because they became good friends. So I suppose Im sort of asking what do you recommend I do? How should I tell my mum?
These childhood crushes are very sweet and not intended to last. Maybe what you feel is the genuine article or maybe it's you who took it all too much to heart. Even if this guy ends up being the one for you, you should still date other boys and have a good time as befits your age.
What is your specific concern - about telling your mother? Is it because you suspect that she won't approve? You say she's always been supportive so there's no reason not to confide in her now. Just tell her from your heart how you feel and I'm sure you'll feel better.
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