I broke up with my boyfriend of two years about 2 weeks ago. All of my friends have supported me through this and have always been there for me. One of my friends, however, who has been just as supportive, has been ringing him up and asking him to go around to her place for drinks, going around to his place claiming that she thinks he needs 'support' and sending him picture messages that I really don't think someone should be sending her friend's ex-boyfriend.
She has always really liked him and thought that I was never good enough for him. I have no problem with him dating other girls. I am mainly angry with the fact that one of my good friends is giving him support and asking him around to her place when I am her friend.
He was my first 'everything' - boyfriend, person I slept with etc so I'm not sure how I am supposed to be feeling or how I should react to this. I don't know if I should confront her about this (I'm not an aggressive person so I'm only going to talk to her) or should I let it go and accept whatever happens? Hope to hear from you,
This is not about you and your ex but rather about your friendship with the other girl. If you don't speak to her about the situation, you'll never be able to really be friends again, regardless of whether she has a chance with your ex or not. I therefore do think you should speak to her and just tell her quietly that you feel she's been inappropriate. If she acknowledges her behaviour is wrong, your friendship might still have a chance. But if she puts the guy before you, she never really was your friend.
As for your feelings, they are exactly right. You are expected to go through a grieving period after a break-up. You can't control what your ex does in the future but you have every right to feel as you do.
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