User Bad Boy

I am 16 years old and female. Recently I became close really suddenly with this guy I met at a friend's place. On our second meeting, we kissed, twice. That was all we did but to me it was pretty special. He has apparently got a reputation for being a user and treating girls badly. My friend and I know this- but my friend knows him pretty well and it's mostly a misjudgement from everyone else. After we kissed- or hooked up, he has ignored me and not replied to my text or when I see him somewhere- for example netball last night, if we have eye contact, he will turn away so he won't have to look at me.

Apparently after we hooked up, he went around telling everyone that I was a bad kisser. After I heard about this, I got so angry that I texted him saying "you FAG!" but I then apologised straight after and then another `sorry' text the next day. I'm not sure if this is to do with why he's ignoring me but he is known to be a "cocky smartass" who uses chicks to do anything and get anything from them he can.I was wondering what I should do about this situation. I still want to be friends or at least be talking to this guy- or if he won't do that- I want to start over with him.I do not know him very well. I've only really seen him around town and actually hung out with him twice. At first my friend said he was playing "hard to get." Now we are not so sure. I've heard the guy that is mean to you is the one that actually likes you. I did ask this guy out though, and he said no- but I ended kissing him anyway- it was kinda in the moment.
What should I do????

Charmaine:
You seem very confused and that's probably because as you say, you don't know this guy very well and therefore, you're jumping from one position to another. Though you say your friend knows this guy, his behaviour seems to bear out his reputation as a user. You should try not to judge people based on third party opinions or hearsay but make your own assessments by watching how someone behaves.

Regardless of all this, it's pretty obvious that this guy is not interested in going any further with you. You've apologised and that's as much as you can do. Put it down to experience. This is not the first or last time you will make a mistake with a guy so take these lessons from the situation - don't listen to and act on gossip without checking your facts get to know a guy before kissing him or hoping for a continuing relationship.

It is most definitely NOT true that a guy who's mean really likes you. Don't fall for that myth. This guy is not your friend and the best thing you can do is think more of yourself and just forget him.




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