Giving me the stares

Hi, I'm a 15year old. I like this guy but he is 7 years older than me. We've known each other since I was about 6 as he is a good friend of the family.

My family think that he is not my type but he is. I've tried to explain how different he is compared to other guys that I've liked.

Now he's in Malaysia for a holiday to visit his family members and we've decided to chill for a while and just let it float.

I've got another question - one day in school, my friend went up to him and asked him if he liked me and he said no but I don't know if it's true or not because I don't trust her. This guy is good looking and has a brother in year 11 and sometimes they both stare at me. I don't know what to do. I don't really know him and we said hello a couple of times but it's weird. At the canteen, when he goes and get food, he always stares at me.Can you help me?
Mia

Charmaine:
You sound very confused but that's all part of being 15, and believe me, adults don't always have all the answers either. All we can do is to be as clear as possible in our dealings with others.

The first thing you need to understand is that this guy you like probably has mixed feelings because of the age difference. He might like you but doesn't feel able to show it. I think `chilling' for now is the best idea as you're at an age when you need not get too serious too quickly. One of the toughest yet most important life-lessons is to trust - yourself and the process of life. Let things develop without forcing them.

This guy is at a different life-stage so please don't take it personally if he doesn't pursue a relationship with you. Enjoy the stares but don't read too much into them. I'm a bit concerned about your saying you don't trust your friend. That's a sad situation. Either find someone you do trust to confide in or develop a more honest rapport with this girl. It's always best to communicate personally and not rely on third-party reports, in any case.

I wish you happy teenage years with lots of options, adventures and yes, even heartbreak, for that's all part of the journey that will help you to become a strong and healthy adult.




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