Green Eyed Monster

I have been with my boyfriend now for 6 months. The first couple of months was fine. I had no problems with jealousy and being paranoid but in the last 3 or 4 months, I have found that it is becoming a problem with me. We have just come back from overseas for 2 weeks and to be honest, I was shocking. I thought my boyfriend was looking at women all the time, causing me to get very stressed, thinking that I wish I had eyes in the back of my head. I love him so much and think that he could be the one but with this problem I am having is causing a few arguments with my boyfriend. I have my good days but something just clicks and I can't handle it the other days. My boyfriend says he isn't going anywhere and wants to help me through this. I have had a few problems with my self confidence all throughout my life starting from school thinking I am not good enough etc I was wondering if you have any ideas in which to help me out. It would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Brooke

Charmaine:
Despite your boyfriend's understanding and patience, this problem is your responsibility and I have to say that it shouldn't be allowed to continue untended much longer. It's not going away by itself. A little bit of jealousy is normal but paranoia is about suspicion and lack of trust, not good qualities in a successful relationship. You're right in saying that it's about insecurity and if it goes way back, maybe it's time to face up to it.

Try to get my book, `Women and stress' online or email me for further help.




Body Talk Column is hosted by Charmaine Saunders. www.charmainesaunders.com

Send your requests to girl@girl.com.au attention Charmaine.