Q. My friend and I have been close for many years and our friendship has been based on fun, good times, simple companionship. We never have any disagreements or conflicts. Imagine my amazement when last week, after a very casual remark on my part, she flew into an absolute rage and said all kinds of hurtful, personal things towards me. I dont know where this came from. We havent spoken since and Im totally confused. What are your thoughts?
If youve given me an accurate description, it sounds as if your friend is going through a personal crisis. She lashed out at you but you werent responsible for her anger. I can understand how hurt you must be feeling when you were the subject of a largely unprovoked attack. You could be the bigger person and get in touch with her but I dont recommend that you just sweep this incident under the carpet. If you speak, ask her what made her so very angry that day and did she mean those things she said to you. Perhaps shes been harbouring unspoken hostility towards you over time. It sounds as if your friendship has been a little superficial up to now - maybe its time for some straight talking and honesty.
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