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Dear Girl,

I was just asked out by this HOT guy (about 3 weeks ago) and at the time I did not know him well, so I did not go out with him. This past week though, I have been on camp with his class and I have fallen madly in love with him. Of course there is a problem, he is going out with my cousin who is in Year 9 and I don't want to tell her because she will tell me off. He is now distracting me and has said that he does not like my cousin anymore, but he does not want to hurt her. While on camp I was dared to kiss him and since then I have been hooked. What should I do?

Signed Worried Confused.

Dear Worried Confused,

This situation is no doubt causing you some stress. However, now is not the time to waste your energy being confused. It is time to face the situation in the best possible manner given the circumstances. Be honest with your cousin, her 'boyfriend' and last but not least, yourself. How is this accomplished, I hear you desperately ask? You need to decide whether your interest in this guy is purely lust (given he is a 'hottie') or if the attraction is deeper. Think about it: He asked you out whilst he was 'supposedly' being attached (and of all people to your cousin!). Is this the behaviour of a casa nova, or this a genuine guy who is very confused about his feelings? Girlfriend, it is time for some serious research. You need to explore this guy's feelings and intentions. I suggest sitting down and having a serious talk with this guy, sooner rather than later. You should ask this guy to confront your cousin about the situation. In doing so, you will find out whether his feelings for you are true. And in the event that he is not prepared for this confrontation, well I suggest you personally explain the situation to your cousin. Regardless of whether you commence a romantic relationship with this guy (remember only you can decide this!) your cousin has every right to know where things stand. Upon hearing about the situation, she may feel hurt, angry, confused as well as a sense of betrayal. But she should, if nothing else, be appreciative of your honesty. Give her time and space. However, compare this outcome to withholding these emotions and thoughts from her. The consequences, I imagine would be far worse. May the force be with you Girl!

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