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I've known my best friend all my life. He and I grew up together, did everything the same, we never spent any time apart. Now in these past few months, I've started to develop strong feelings for him, but I don't know how to tell him because I think he'll say that he doesn't feel the same way. It has got to the point that I'm so crazy about him, that I avoid talking to him, and if he rings, which is normally every morning, I get someone to make an excuse and say I'm busy. I also have been avoiding seeing him each day, because I don't know how much longer I can hold in these feelings for him. What should I do?

Signed Secret Admirer.

Dear Secret Admirer,

This is obviously avoidance behaviour on your part. But can I be perfectly frank and say that your behaviour 'ain't gonna get you anywhere'! Now is the time, and the time is NOW to let him know that you are in love, in lust (or whatever) with him - unless you have a 'thang' for self-punishment? Think about it, if you avoid him for much longer you will run the risk of ruining a perfectly healthy friendship, as he will resent you for your disappearing act and not being open and honest with him. Other female friends may say, but X you will destroy your friendship if you let your sexual/romantic feelings take over. Yes, maybe. Doing so would be a risk. But isn't life full of risks? Risks can lead to beautiful feelings, experiences, and memories! If you are willing to take a chance, you will be surprised and amaze yourself with the strength you will find in yourself. Just do me a favour; don't watch 'Dawson's Creek' a day or two before telling this guy how you feel!

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